Relational Counseling for the Non-Monogamous Community

at Health for Life Counseling Grand Rapids

Relational Counseling for the Non-Monogamous Community
In Grand Rapids, MI and West Michigan At Health for Life Counseling Grand Rapids, MI

Health for Life Counseling is now offering an individualized counseling program for Non-monogamous community from Gottman-Trained therapists. This Healthy Relationship Dynamics program for the Non-Monogamous Community includes an initial 8-12 meetings and aims to help people or polycules, who have consented to the program, find what they are looking for in relationships. Health for Life Counseling’s program is available in the West Michigan area including in-person in Grand Rapids and Ada, Michigan as well as online throughout the State of Michigan. The Healthy Relationship Dynamics program is built upon relationship counseling and non-monogamous principles, that may help build a foundation of understanding, compassion, and skills to create stronger relationships for goals.
(Note: Health Insurance Plans do not offer relationship program services).
Relational Counseling For The Non-Monogamous And Polyamory Community​
  • Empowering Non-monogamous Relationships: A Comprehensive Program for Thriving Relationships
    • This program is designed to provide a safe and supportive space to explore the dynamics of non-monogamous relationships, develop essential skills, and foster deep connections.
  • Cultivating an Open and Accepting Environment
    • Step into an open and accepting environment where you can freely discuss the intricacies of non-monogamy without judgment or stigma. Our facilitator(s), knowledgeable and experienced in understanding non-monogamous relationships, will guide you through open dialogues, optional group exercises, and reflections to foster a deeper understanding of non-monogamy and its unique challenges.
  • Integrating Autonomy, Personal Responsibility, and Boundaries
    • At the heart of non-monogamy lies a balance between individual autonomy and collective responsibility. Our program will guide you in integrating these concepts, fostering personal responsibility while maintaining healthy boundaries within your relationships.
  • Mastering Effective Communication, Trust, Respect, and Emotional Expression
    • Communication is the lifeblood of non-monogamy. Our program will equip you with the skills to communicate effectively, express your needs and desires with clarity, and listen attentively to your partners. We’ll also explore building trust, fostering mutual respect, and expressing emotions in healthy ways.
  • Optional “Kitchen Table” Polyamory
    • There are a multitude of different types of non-monogamy with no absolute model. All models are welcome in the program. If it is your desire, there is an option to create a dynamic similar to “Kitchen Table” polyamory, where all members of your polycule can comfortably coexist and interact harmoniously. We’ll provide guidance on navigating the complexities of polyamorous relationships and cultivating a sense of community within your polycule.
  • Tailored to Your Unique Dynamic
    • Our program is not a one-size-fits-all approach. We’ll tailor our sessions to address the specific needs and concerns of your relationships, ensuring that you receive personalized guidance and support.

Therapists That Provide The

Therapists For Counseling for the Non-Monogamous Community

Brittani Decess

Counseling through a trauma-informed, inclusive, and equitable lens for individuals, relationships, and families.

Caitlin Quantock

Mindfulness-based Strategies and EMDR to Promote Healing and Growth

To discuss which programs could work for you, call (616) 200-4433 or complete the form below.

What to Expect

  1. What to expect in the Non-Monogamous Healthy Dynamic Program

    Session 1: Rapport Building and Intake

    • Establish a safe and supportive environment for open communication and exploration of relationship dynamics.
    • Gather information about the partners, and/or individual’s relationship history, goals, and challenges.
    • Identify areas of focus for the counseling sessions.

    Session 2: Understanding Fight/Flight/Freeze/Fawn Responses in Relationships

    • Explore the physiological and emotional impact of stress responses in non-monogamous relationships.
    • Develop coping skills to manage stress and prevent emotional hijacking.
    • Identify patterns of fight/flight/freeze/fawn behaviors in the relationship.

    Session 3: Gottman-Rapport Communication Method

    • Introduce the Gottman-Rapport Communication Method, a framework for effective communication in relationships.
    • Practice active listening, empathy, and emotional expression in a supportive environment.
    • Develop strategies for resolving conflict and building a strong emotional connection.

    Session 4: Emotional Literacy

    • Enhance understanding of emotions and their role in non-monogamous relationships.
    • Identify personal emotional triggers and develop strategies for self-regulation.
    • Cultivate emotional intelligence to navigate complex relationship dynamics.

    Session 5: Assumption Checking

    • Understand the impact of assumptions and biases on communication and relationship dynamics.
    • Practice identifying and challenging assumptions in non-monogamous relationships.
    • Develop skills for clear and direct communication to avoid misunderstandings.

    Session 6: Assessment and Preparation for Second Half of Program

    • Review progress made and identify areas for continued focus.
    • Conduct a more in-depth assessment to tailor the second half of the program to specific needs.
    • Prepare for more challenging discussions that may arise in subsequent sessions.

    Session 7: Navigating Jealousy, Expectations, Boundaries, and Agreements

    • Explore the nature of jealousy in non-monogamous relationships.
    • Develop effective strategies for managing jealousy and promoting trust and security.
    • Establish clear boundaries and agreements to navigate expectations, group responsibility, and maintain individual autonomy.

    Session 8: Optional Topics: Gender Roles, Implicit Biases, Masking, and Societal Pressures

    • Address the possibility of influences of societal pressures, implicit biases, gender, or other factors, on non-monogamous relationships.
    • Identify and challenge personal biases that may impact communication and decision-making.
    • Develop strategies for navigating a non-normative society.

    Session 9: Optional Topics: Coming Out, Discrimination, Microaggressions, and Family Dynamics

    • Explore the benefits and challenges of coming out as non-monogamous to family and friends.
    • Develop strategies for coping with discrimination, microaggressions, and unsupportive reactions.
    • Discuss the impact of non-monogamous relationships on family dynamics and communication.

    Session 10: Optional Topics: Growing a Family, Parenting/Parenthood, and Expectations

    • Discuss the unique opportunities and challenges of parenting in non-monogamous and polyamorous families.
    • Explore strategies for navigating co-parenting dynamics and establishing clear family structures.
    • Address expectations and responsibilities related to parenting in non-monogamous relationships.

    Session 11: Codependency vs. Co-Regulation

    • Understand the differences between codependency and healthy co-regulation in non-monogamous relationships.
    • Identify signs of codependency and develop strategies for cultivating interdependence and healthy boundaries.
    • Foster mutual respect and support while maintaining individual autonomy.

    Session 12: Closure Session

    • Review progress made throughout the program and celebrate accomplishments.
    • Discuss strategies for continuing to implement the skills learned in a non-monogamous relationship.
    • Provide resources for ongoing support

Additional Sessions Might Include:

  • Family relationships/in-laws
  • Time spent together/leisure time
  • Dealing with anger or other intense emotions
  • Work/life balance

Investment

Level 3 (Enhancing Your Love)

12 sessions at $120= $1440 Total

What does this include? What are the differences between programs?

Includes: 1 Introductory session, 6 sessions of skill building, Assessment to garner areas of focus, 4 sessions directed on common relational topics, 1 closing session, and a Relational Skill Building Booklet to take home and guide throughout the program.

Pay Up Front in a Lump Sum Discount = $1300 Total

Level 2 (Growing in Love)

10 sessions at $135 = $1350

What does this include?

Includes: 1 Introductory session, 6 sessions of skill building, Assessment to garner areas of focus, 2 sessions directed at common relational topics, 1 closing session, and a Relational Skill Building Booklet to take home and guide throughout the program.

Pay Up Front in a Lump Sum Discount = $1200 Total

Level 1 (Foundations of Love- )

8 session at $145 = $1160

What does this include?

1 Introductory session, 6 sessions of skill building, 1 closing session, and a Relational Skill Building Booklet to take home and guide throughout the program.

Pay Up Front in a Lump Sum Discount = $1000 Total

(Note: Health Insurance Plans do not cover premarital or couples counseling).

Therapeutic Alignment with the Non-Monogamous Community

Typically polyamorous or non-monogamous relationships face many barriers when seeking counseling and mental health services. In fact, there appears to be limited published research on non-monogamous relationships due to cultural bias–while there are more and more books being published every year on the topic. 

According to Johnson (2013), many polyamorous individuals avoid seeking professional help because they’re afraid of experiencing stigmatization, bias, and misunderstanding of their lifestyle choices from mental health providers. Johnson emphasizes the ethical obligation counselors have to explore and address the unique needs of polyamorous clients, including their often deep-rooted mistrust of professionals. At Health for Life Counseling, we are adamant about matching you with a therapist that understands the cultural nuances of the non-monogamous community.

Therefore, at Health for Life Counseling, we are working on matching you with therapists that are familiar with mental health counselors who are familiar with the research and writing of Jessica Fern, Dossie Easton, Janet Hardy, Eve Rickert, Franklin Veaux, and others. 

It is important for therapists that specialize in non-monogamy relationships to understand these relationships through an intersectional lens–which is in line with Zimmerman’s (2012) recommendations. Some of the most effective techniques in this case include the Gottman method, narrative therapy, and cognitive behavioral therapy.

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